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Slumber Party!

You end up hooking-up with a hottie and he offers you his place to stay for the night. Instead of making a trek across campus by yourself, you feel it’d be safer to stay. What does staying the night entail? If you stay the night, are you committed to going farther than making out?

This is a frequent question I’ve been hearing girls ask one another. My feelings on the subject? Do what you want to do! It’s not like you signed your signature under the statement, “I, (Name Here) will not just sleep next to you, but I will also sleep with you.” You’re not under a contracted agreement.

Teddy bear may not be your snuggle buddy tonight.

You’ll be sleeping in the same bed, but that doesn’t mean you have to have sex. You aren’t committed to a serious relationship, it’s simply an open bed that happens to have your name on it.

Then why does it feel like an obligation to seal the deal? There’s something intimate about sleeping next to someone. It’s an opportunity to touch or snuggle, more time to chat and more time to well…do it! Also, you may feel that the guy is expecting it, therefore you better do it unless you want some nasty rumor spread about how you’re such a tease on some college gossip Web site.

No, I’m not naive. Some guys intentions of inviting girls to stay over are often in order to get in their pants, but I do believe there are genuine guys out there who would not violate a girl’s comfort level.

Sleeping over brings so many questions to the surface.

1. After the initial sleeping part of the slumberparty, what do you say the next morning?

2.Do you initiate a kiss goodbye or bolt out the door?

3.Do you take the walk home with  your head down and your shades on? Or do you prance on home to your roomie to give the romantic details of the previous evening?

I think it depends on the original initiater of the slumberparty (usually the guy) to start conversation the next morning. If he is rude and doesn’t give you the time of day, just because you chose not to offer any additional sexual favors in return for his bed, he is not worth your time. In the worst case scenario he’ll pretend the night never happened and may not even say “hey!” when you pass each other on the way to class tomorrow.

Hopefully, he’ll have the guts to make a little playful conversation, confirm that he’d like to see you again, and peck you goodbye as you leave. Perhaps the guy will be nice enough to even walk you home. (In a perfect world, right?)

The chance of waking up next to a selfish jerk seems more likely. In this case you’ll be forced to walk home in your dress and heels from last night without a polite word like: “We should really do this again sometime”.

It’s best to know what you’re getting into before accepting an offer to stay over. One thing has been decided at my new house this year. If someone is sleeping over, he’s staying for breakfast.